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Editor and Publisher: Teresa Proudlove
Issue #039 May 31, 2007

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These 740 words will take you a little more than two minutes to read. Read on to read the final instalment of: "Avoiding the Nine Deadly Dream Killers Part 3."

Table of Contents

1. Lacking Ideas and Staying Power #7

2. Focusing on Failure #8

3. Too Much Doing #9

4. What to make a change but don't know where to start?
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This is the third and final installment of the nine tips to “Avoiding the Dream Killers” I wrote of in the past two newsletters. The first two installments of this three part series identified the first six dream killers - click here if you would like to read or reread: 1. Being Realistic Far Too Soon! 2. Listening to Uninformed Advice and/or Negative Criticism; 3. Staying Confused, Lost, Overwhelmed, And Frustrated; 4. Not Enough Information or Exploration; 5. Thinking an Idea has to be Unique/New; 6. Missing the Obvious; 7. Read on…

Transitioning into work we’d love to do cannot happen alone. No matter how motivated or rugged we are – at some point everyone has to bring someone into their dream (even if it is the customer). Support and brainstorming for ideas is key for most people to birth the dream. Whether we call them dream teams (Barbara Sher, “Wish Craft”) or master mind groups this is a proven way of making dreams happen.

Gather like minded people wanting to make changes in their life/work who’ll commit to regular meetings (weekly/bi-weekly), one to two hours long. Keep the meeting to the allotted length of time and on task (visit afterward if desired). Two main tasks need to be achieved each meeting for people to keep coming back. First, each person takes a turn stating their “dream and obstacle” followed by the group brainstorming for ideas to overcome that obstacle for a set time of 5 or 10 minutes (have a timer).

For those who don’t know their dream yet, they might say, “Here’s what I love to do – any ideas?” If they say they love flowers for example you need more info to help them. Keep asking questions, “What do you love about that? What else?” Suggest ways they can further explore their interests. Pay attention to the passion factor – you know – when you hear music in their voice; their body stirs, heightens; their eyes light from within…

The second task to be undertaken at the meeting’s close is: each person reads aloud their next steps (using the ideas brainstormed for them) which they’re committed to completing by next meeting. The next dream team meeting begins with each person giving a brief report on the success of these completed steps (or not). Then, again, each person states their dream and obstacle (as new problems will arise). Again, that is followed by the group brainstorming for ideas for a set time limit per person.

This is a very dynamic, motivating process (as no one wants to show up and admit they did nothing!) Plus, people so genuinely want to help one another you feel well supported and heard – a basic human need filled! And what seems like an impossible hurdle to us changes with fresh input.

“What if I can’t raise the money?” “What if I try to start my own business and I fail?” “What if I lose everything?” “What will THEY think?” How long can we live with this constant energy drain? A lifetime? At what cost? Given we have used common sense, made some plans to take care of our survival, we would have more energy, fun and goodness in life if we focused on what is possible.

A while back we changed our fearful “What if we can’t afford a larger, rural home in this market,” to “What if we could afford a larger, rural home?” This simple rephrasing is so freeing. What if you started your own business, followed your dream, were a huge success…? Also, ask and ponder, “What if I don’t follow my heart?” Then, what…

After saying you need to get support and information; to seek other people’s expertise; to get out there and take next steps this may sound like a contradiction. From my own journey, I found the single most important factor in reclaiming my passion and my gifts came about from time spent alone. Too much doing splits us from our soul and our truth. Being is the way back… sitting, breathing, pondering, journaling, letting go, asking important questions of the soul.

As Dawna Markova, author of “I Will Not Die an Unlived Life,” reminded me “What questions do you ask of your soul as you begin/close each day?” Listening to my first question upon arising I heard, “What do I have to do?” This punishing query repeated throughout the day had me hurrying to finish one thing so I could get onto the next; living most of my day – my precious life - with a feeling of angst.

When I changed that question to, “What do I know about my passion but have not yet expressed,” I received a surprising yet, oh so clear truth. What question do you need to ask of your soul? Are you willing to quietly sit, being, listening, trusting?

So my friends, first and foremost, begin by taking deliberate time to be alone each day. Take breaks from the incessant information calling you away from your own deepest knowing and truth.

Nurture yourself and your soul, and you’ll nurture your dreams.

“you suppose you are the trouble
but you are the cure
you suppose that you are the lock on the door
but you are the key that opens it
It’s too bad that you want to be someone else
You don’t see your own face, your own beauty
Yet, no face is more beautiful than yours.” - Rumi

"One doesn't discover new lands without first consenting to lose sight of the shore for a very long time." - Andre Gide, Fr. novelist

“Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart.” ~ Carl Jung

Warmest regards,

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