This does not mean there is something wrong with us that needs fixing as the self-help movement implies. Self-improvement and much of the network marketing industry bombards us with the ideas that if we fix or change our beliefs, attitudes, old wounds, thinking, goals, financial situation then we will be O.K. or a success. We are further burdened with blame and shame for supposedly having created our so-called “lack or negative situation” with our thinking, beliefs or unaddressed childhood hurts.

These egocentric doctrines hurt us. Where is the room for God’s infinite plan, our soul’s work, indeed our lifework; within such narrow thinking? There is much at work, far beyond our control or our imagination, shaping our lives. At times, we are but frail dust swept within the winds of change. During these difficult times, like career changes and lifework challenges, we need compassion for our human condition… not self-incriminating lectures.

Paradoxically, there is an element of truth in the school of thought that our beliefs, thinking, attitudes and old hurts can affect our quality of life. However, our lives are not a problem to be fixed and we are not to blame for every life occurrence.

“Events occur because conditions are right, and your action only contributes to one of many conditions.” Lieh-Tzu

We have to grow into the being which can make the changes we wish to have. Often, I hear people lamenting their lives; saying they should be further ahead in their careers, relationships, financial situation, and even in their self growth. Yet, creating change involves much more than decision-making and setting goals. We are planting the seeds which grow our being. Growing a being is your lifework not ten-easy-steps-to-a-new-you.

This is why career change or any type of life transition can take much longer than we planned. The more time I spend on this planet, the more I realize how very little is really within my control and how rarely things work out according to my time line. More and more, I am aware of the hand of God orchestrating life, with us but players upon a great stage. Wherever we are right now, is exactly the place we are meant to be.

This doesn’t mean we have to hopelessly accept harmful or unworkable situations in our life. However, there is a flow and timing to all things. Disdaining our lives and believing we can only be happy when we have the great career, lose fifteen pounds, find the right love, make more money… does not facilitate change or happiness. It only creates more discontent. We can only experience peace and well-being now, in this moment.

Following, is the outline of three simple spiritual practices which foster our sense of well-being and peace now.

“A = Ask for Help,” begins with calling upon our higher power for help.

“B = Breathing Being,” reminds us to return to our breathing, our bodies and our God.

“C = Call for Compassion,” teaches us a kinder, more compassionate way of dealing with life, ourselves and others.

At times, acronyms for learning can seem overly cute and annoying, however, I could not ignore something that was revealed to me through prayerful meditation. Practicing these simple, easily remembered spiritual ABC’s has proven to be invaluable during stressful moments and dark days. May these spiritual precepts add as much goodness to your life as they have to mine.